Supporting Your Child: The First Steps in Exploring Special Educational Needs

Families often come to me at the very beginning of their journey into the world of special educational needs. Many feel that their child is struggling but are unsure where to begin, what help is available, or how to access it.

If you're in that position, here are the top three areas I encourage families to consider when exploring whether their child may need additional support in school:

1. Gather Your Evidence

What are your key concerns?

Start by keeping a diary of your child’s behaviours, challenges, and anything that feels significant. Even if you're unsure of the cause, documenting dates, events, and emotions may help you spot patterns over time.

How will you share your concerns with professionals?

Writing down your thoughts can help you communicate clearly with SEN professionals, such as the school’s SENDCo, your GP, or local authority caseworkers. Having a clear, concise summary of your concerns makes it easier to explain what you're seeing at home.

2. Speak with the School’s SENDCo

Who is the SENDCo?

Every school in the UK has a Special Educational Needs and Disabilities Coordinator (SENDCo). Their role is to identify, assess, and support pupils with additional needs. You can usually find their contact details on the school’s website.

What is happening in school?

Ask the school what they are seeing. Is your child becoming dysregulated in the classroom? Are you receiving calls home? Or perhaps your child is masking at school but showing signs of distress at home? Even concerns that seem small are worth documenting. Starting a paper trail—such as emailing the school to log your concerns—can be a helpful way to build a fuller picture of your child’s needs over time.

3. Speak with Your GP About Assessment

Could your child benefit from a formal assessment?

If you’ve gathered evidence and feel concerned, it’s a good idea to speak to your GP. They can advise on a referral for an assessment for neurodivergent conditions (e.g., autism, ADHD). As is widely reported, NHS waiting lists are currently very long in many areas. Some families explore private assessments, which can be quicker, though this depends on your personal circumstances.

A Final Thought

Securing the right support for your child can be a long and layered process. As your child grows and changes, so will their needs. Try to think of this journey not as a single destination, but as an evolving part of parenting. Each step you take builds a stronger foundation for your child’s future.